If you want to devastate an American kid, call him of her a “loser.” Losers are the ones who go home empty-handed, who don’t get invited back to pay the next game, and who spend their entire lives sitting on the sidelines while the winners are calling the shots.
Popular culture in the US is heavily influenced by athletics, and the idea of competition has spilled over into every aspect of child . For many parents, successful parenting means setting goals for a child, and withholding approval and love until those goals are met.
Nowhere in this parenting philosophy is there an understanding that parenting children through their failures is far more likely to help them become successful than parenting them to avoid failure will.
Children come into the world with their survival instincts fully developed, even if they aren’t physically capable of caring for themselves.