The different parents-kids relations between China and America are the result of multi-reasons. One of these reasons is that these countries are of different history. As we know, compare with China, America is a young country, which has been established only over 200 years. “History does not exist for us until and unless we dig it up.” Even the earliest settlers have no more than 6 generations in the continent of America. In that we can see, the notion of “family tree” is quite shallow.
The “first name” or “blood” did not serve as a family symbol but representatives of individual. When a baby was born, he or she is seemed simply as a brand new life but not a extend branch of a family tree. So, American parents seldom regard children as a part of themselves but a totally independent human, and individual who must be enabled to survive in the world. This kind of view guided the parents to practice the children’s abilities, to make them self-affordable as early as possible. That is their “responsibility”.
While in China, which is a country that have a history of over 3000 years. It is totally not the case: Along with Egypt, Babylon and India, China is one of the oldest nations in the world. This phase is the childhood of the nation. The second phase is from 221BC to the end of 6th century. It’s a phase of growth and homogenization.
In that, we can see, in the long run of Chinese history, she suffers many times of breaking and unity. During more than 3000 years of volatile, Chinese people have thousands generations of offspring who, own the same first name, the same ancestor, with the same blood in the vein. Eventually those people formed a clan, which is a stable organization to offend people of same blood. Under such a circumstance, any newly born child will be considered as extending of the family, a fortune of the whole clan. Thus, children in parents’ eyes are not plainly individual, but a part of the family system. It’s parents’ responsibility to protect their kids, smooth their troubles even make decisions for them.