Music Education for Parents

Your child is showing signs of musical talent. Who should make the decision about kids and music lessons, the parent or the child? Most people will say the adult. The child does not know enough to know what is good for them yet.

Actually, there are three different scenarios involving parents, kids and music:

Your child shows interest. His interest and ability is obvious to everyone, both friends and family. This is a perfect scenario with a natural and mutual outcome; the child is simply born to play musical instrument.

Your child informs you they want to sing or play an instrument. Sometimes a parent will pick up on the request the first time and other times the child will ask repeatedly. Children are persistent and if your child is always visiting with the same musical kids then they will embrace these lessons and attend with pleasure.

The parents see their child’s interest. Everyone has a different level of natural musical ability and children are no exception. Kids and music go together naturally. It is easy to prove this if you just turn on the radio. The reaction to the melodies will depend on the age of your child, but even a child to young to walk will start moving to the beat.

On the opposite end of the spectrum are the parents who see and hear their child’s desire for a formal musical education but they disapprove the idea of kids and music. They are imposing their own personal opinions on their child. Usually this is because the parent was forced to be involved in a kids and music program as a child and only has bad memories of it.

Kids and music is a natural combination. Why would any parent try to defy nature and separate kids and music? If your child openly expresses the desire to learn music, you should let them. There are a few primary reasons parents deny their child a musical education, here is a brief list of the most common ones:

1. Parents are absolutely clueless about music education because they never took these lessons themselves.

2. The parents were forced to take music lessons when they were young. This is important because the bad memories about kids and music and being forced to do something they hated will not go away. No parent wants to expose their child to something that will be unpleasant.

3. Children change their minds and interests almost daily. Many parents doubt that the child will be studying music for a long time, and the expenses for music are quite costly and immediate. If finances are the only factor between your child and their desired musical education talk to teachers and instructors. In most major cities there are organizations that are willing to help.

4. Parents do not understand the advantages of a musical education and attempt to see some other talents in him, for example, in dancing, art, athletics, etc.

Different History Cause the Different Parents-Kids

The different parents-kids relations between China and America are the result of multi-reasons. One of these reasons is that these countries are of different history. As we know, compare with China, America is a young country, which has been established only over 200 years. “History does not exist for us until and unless we dig it up.” Even the earliest settlers have no more than 6 generations in the continent of America. In that we can see, the notion of “family tree” is quite shallow.

The “first name” or “blood” did not serve as a family symbol but representatives of individual. When a baby was born, he or she is seemed simply as a brand new life but not a extend branch of a family tree. So, American parents seldom regard children as a part of themselves but a totally independent human, and individual who must be enabled to survive in the world. This kind of view guided the parents to practice the children’s abilities, to make them self-affordable as early as possible. That is their “responsibility”.

While in China, which is a country that have a history of over 3000 years. It is totally not the case: Along with Egypt, Babylon and India, China is one of the oldest nations in the world. This phase is the childhood of the nation. The second phase is from 221BC to the end of 6th century. It’s a phase of growth and homogenization.

In that, we can see, in the long run of Chinese history, she suffers many times of breaking and unity. During more than 3000 years of volatile, Chinese people have thousands generations of offspring who, own the same first name, the same ancestor, with the same blood in the vein. Eventually those people formed a clan, which is a stable organization to offend people of same blood. Under such a circumstance, any newly born child will be considered as extending of the family, a fortune of the whole clan. Thus, children in parents’ eyes are not plainly individual, but a part of the family system. It’s parents’ responsibility to protect their kids, smooth their troubles even make decisions for them.

Parenting Kids and Understanding

It really hurts parenting kids whose behavior everyone complains about in the neighborhood. You really don’t want your neighbors to be yelling at you because your children did something crazy. Not all fathers and mothers out there are able to bring up their children in a manner that is acceptable by society.

Some parents neglect their duties as parents. Instead of them guiding their children to grow up knowing the right ways, they impart them ways that are not righteous through the acts of their deeds. They teach them hatred instead of love. Children learn from their observations, what parents do is what their children will learn from them.

If you don’t guide your children well by imparting them good behaviors, then they’ll definitely be a disaster wherever they go. And, this will imply how poor you’re when it comes to parenting. You’ll have actually failed your children. But, what if your children are said to be well-behaved by people? Definitely you’ll be proud.

Some of the kids practice bad habits and this makes their parents to worry. Here are some things parents should be aware of:

1.) What you may think as a bad behavior could be just a normal stage of development for the child. For example, when children are very young they could be asking all sort of questions and some of these questions could be very embarrassing. This could be considered as a bad habit by some parents. However, children will outgrow this in the end and know the appropriate questions to ask.

2.) Some bad habits might be the child’s way of soothing himself. Sometimes, children might suck on their shirts or one of the fingers (thumb-sucking) in place of crying or screaming. This calms them and lets them feel more secure. Once children are past age of thumb-sucking, parents should use a proper way of making their children to stop the habit.

3.) Children might use some bad habits in order to feel in control of their surroundings. When they first go to daycare they could exhibit different behaviors. One example is when they feel insecure at daycare and to soothe themselves, they rub on their clothing. But this behavior will be stopped once they get used with the daycare environment.

4.) Many times, children perform actions that adults don’t understand and they might take them to be bad habits. For instance, when the child’s hands are chilly, they could for instance place the hands between their thighs to warm them. Parents many times misread this and yell at them like they’re doing something wrong. If the adults knew the child’s hands were cold, then they might have given them another solution.

5.) Severe punishments are not the way to go with the bad habits that children tend to practice. When kids are behaving badly with the aim of trying to soothe themselves, it will be counterproductive making them feel bad. Some parents get so flustered with their children’s bad habits and punish them severely. There is a way you can make your children to understand that they’re behaving badly without punishing them severely.

6.) Teaching the child behaviors that are good in place of the destructive or annoying bad habits is a more productive way to go. You should be able to train your kid to become aware of their bad habits. When they change behaviors, give them a reward. This will motivate them.

7.) Normally, it is best just to wait. The child’s bad habits disappear as time goes by. When they get old enough to go to school, other kids will criticize them hence they’ll quit the bad habits.

Parenting Kids to Live through Failure

If you want to devastate an American kid, call him of her a “loser.” Losers are the ones who go home empty-handed, who don’t get invited back to pay the next game, and who spend their entire lives sitting on the sidelines while the winners are calling the shots.

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Popular culture in the US is heavily influenced by athletics, and the idea of competition has spilled over into every aspect of child . For many parents, successful parenting means setting goals for a child, and withholding approval and love until those goals are met.

Nowhere in this parenting philosophy is there an understanding that parenting children through their failures is far more likely to help them become successful than parenting them to avoid failure will.

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Children come into the world with their survival instincts fully developed, even if they aren’t physically capable of caring for themselves. So when they get old enough to pick up on the idea that failure is a threat to their survival, simply because the people who care for them aren’t happy when they fail, they’ll find ways to avoid failure. Parenting kids to live with failure will require Mom and Dad to watch for certain avoidance tactics.

Kids who know they are likely to fail at a certain activity will find ways to avoid participating. They will feign injury or develop a sudden headache or stomach ache; they will forget their gym shoes; they will lose hide the permission slip for the activity; or they will simply refuse to participate and start making fun of those who do. They are protecting themselves from failure by avoiding involvement.

Another tactic children develop to avoid failure is to find someone or something to blame. “The grass on the playground was wet so I couldn’t run at full speed or I would have won.” “My book report was better than Jane’s but she got an A and I only got a B because the teacher likes girls better than boys.” By assigning responsibility for their failure to circumstances beyond their control, children thing the can remove the threat of being rejected by their parents and peers.

The final way in which children will avoid failure is by forcing themselves to succeed, and while that may sound like just the ticket for many driven parents, what it really means is that they are raising kids who will never know the joy of finding the areas for which they truly have a gift and can become real assets to the human race.

Kids who have an average aptitude for math, for instance, but feel compelled to bring a report card with at least a B+ in every subject, may grind away at the math and forego entering the statewide essay contest, even though they love writing and would have had a real chance to excel. Parenting kids though failure means letting them know that they don’t have to set the world on fire with everything they do.

Kids who have succeeded in avoiding failure have also succeeded in ensuring that they will never full engage in life. One of the biggest gifts parents can give to their children is the understanding that it’s okay to fail. Parenting kids to live through failure is a way of letting them know that, once they are out in the big world where failure is inevitable, they can simply accept their failure and move on, motivated to do better.

Children who have been allowed to fail without fearing for their emotional survival do not have to hide from their behavior; they can simply accept its consequences and make the changes necessary to achieve the desired result. And they also understand that nobody is perfect.

Parenting children to live with failure, in other words, is simply dusting off the old cliché, and instilling it in your kids with all the love you can muster: “If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.”