Praise and affirmation would impact children in their behavior or self-esteem. They are something which most children crave for from their parents, teachers, coaches and other authoritative figures in their lives. They are not flattery and should be direct, specific and sincere.
On the other hand, we should be carefully to avoid praising our children excessively. What is excessive praise? What kind of negative effects they would have on children?
Excessive praises are those repeatedly heaping on a child for the same success or good behavior. Things that he has already shown he is capable of excellence.
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Unless the child is one who lacks confidence, to repetitively praise him for the same thing would only make him proud or develop a false illusion of his capabilities. The last thing we want is to raise a haughty child or one who is not motivated to progress any further.
So, how do we avoid excessive praise?
1. Suppress our carnal urge to repeatedly praise the
Hitting a moving round object with a cylinder is one of the most difficult tasks in all of sports.
There are a lot of theories and strategies on how to best teach a young child the fundamental skills which are required to master this particular athletic challenge.
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Here are a few simple tips and a simple method to help young hitters, their parents and their coaches:
Sport psychologists, coaches and learning experts like to break athletic tasks down into steps. While there are some kids who can learn simply by imitating what they see on television and their video games, many children will better learn the basics of hitting if it is taught to them in small steps.
Age four is a good time to start this kind of instruction. The first thing to determine is if your child is more comfortable batting right handed or left handed. You can sort this out by watching which hand they throw with, eat with and write with. You
If you want to devastate an American kid, call him of her a “loser.” Losers are the ones who go home empty-handed, who don’t get invited back to pay the next game, and who spend their entire lives sitting on the sidelines while the winners are calling the shots.
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Popular culture in the US is heavily influenced by athletics, and the idea of competition has spilled over into every aspect of child . For many parents, successful parenting means setting goals for a child, and withholding approval and love until those goals are met.
Nowhere in this parenting philosophy is there an understanding that parenting children through their failures is far more likely to help them become successful than parenting them to avoid failure will.
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Children come into the world with their survival instincts fully developed, even if they aren’t physically capable of caring for themselves.
Joseph is 26 years old and lives in Windhoek, Namibia. At the age of 21, he has unexpectedly become the father and mother of his 4 young brothers and 2 sisters, when his most loving mother, Hileni, a school teacher and city councilwoman, the only provider of the family, unexpectedly died from the HIV disease.
Their father, Samuels had died a year before. The youngest child at the time was just less than 4 years old. Fortunately, when Hileni passed away, Joseph has already graduated from high school, and he was planning on going to college, but he could never go, as he had to find a job to support his young brothers and sisters. Joseph has a brother, Fritz, who is 23 years old and is defying the gravity of their hardship by going to college. He wants to go to Santa Monica College in Santa Monica, California, and then transfer to UCLA to complete his degree education, so he can one day find a good paying job to help his brothers and sisters.
And by the time Fritz completes his degree education, Joseph would be in his 30s,
Parenting has it’s challenges, but last week I stumbled upon a surprising secret. I was under a lot of stress with a project I was working on. My daughter was involved in it too so it was important to me to keep my cool and do a good job since I knew she was watching how I handled it. What I discovered was that through this stressful event, we were able to discuss some very important and “deep” subjects. I had some of my best parenting moments through that stress. I got to thinking about this afterwards and realized that I’d accidentally stumbled upon an extremely important lesson:
Real parenting is done in the little moments.
I never would have been able to have had such good conversations with her and pass on my beliefs and values on these topics if I’d just sat down and brought up the subjects we were discussing. It was in the course of going through that event that the opportunities arose naturally. Because they fell into the context of the situation they weren’t awkward, uncomfortable and ineffective. No! Instead, she was interested, and able
Wake up and hit the floor running. Quickly wake the kids. Get them moving to the restroom. Inspect their outfits. Slop some food on the table and call it breakfast. Sprint to the car. Hook in the seatbelts and throw the car in reverse. And, hope that the world gets out of the way while you race the kids to school and dash to the office. Sound familiar?
What happens when you get the numbskull on the road that drives slow in the fast lane, doesn’t bother to use their turn signal, or races to pass you only to slow down when they get in front of you? Oh, you will show them! You might yell profanities, ride their tail too close, send them the universal hand gesture, or worse, really get mad!
True enough, showing our anger feels so much better, at that particular moment, but, truthfully, did it make anything better? Did we really get to work any faster/slower? Did we bother to actually speak to the kids while we had a perfect opportunity? Did we notice how beautiful the day was? Did we listen to the music
It is advisable to have yearly check-ups from a certified physician. Some parents don’t even know that their child has disabilities until their negative behavior has intensified to the point where it can’t be dealt with anymore. Children with challenges such as learning disabilities, neurological impairments or those who’ve been traumatized are very fragile and require special care and attention. These children need support for them to achieve their potential and personal development.
One thing to keep in mind is to not treat them as challenges or make them feel at fault. It is our responsibility as parents to understand and support our child all the way. Accepting children for who they are is a key component in changing their behavior. Negative behavior is not a part of their character but rather a way of compensating from being misunderstood by others. Failing to understand their character can definitely develop severe social and emotional problems as well. It could also affect how they deal with others when they become adults.
Learned helplessness shouldn’t be tolerated. Imagine that James is a precocious 6 year old who was diagnosed with mental retardation. He
So, you have a responsible teen and you/they would like for them to be able to keep their MySpace account. Alright, we have put together a guide on how to let your kids enjoy MySpace safely and responsibly. I believe it can be done, but, it will require parental supervision and for both parties to come to an agreement.
Let’s get sta
#1 Establish clear cut rules. Sign a Parent child internet contract like the one found
#2 Install a filtering and logging software package. The filtering is to stop the basic inappropriate images and sites, set time limits, and to verify, if necessary, where someone has been online, etc. The logging software or “key logger” will be used to track conversations online at whatever intervals the parent decides. With the key logger, nothing gets typed without your knowledge. With the filtering, most porn is kept away and you have control of the computer.
#3 The single most important factor for your children to have a safe internet environment is parental involvement. I cannot say enough about how important this is. Even with all the tools listed here, if parents do not get involved
“What are some of the ways in which you explain to kids that mom and
dad need time alone, without feeling guilty about it?”
A journalist, writing an article on having time alone and couple time
when you have kids, asked me this question.
Parents will feel guilty only when they believe that they are doing
something wrong by spending time alone and couple time without their
This is a false belief.
The truth is that children grow up far healthier emotionally when their
parents are happy and fulfilled, even if it means that their parents spend
less time with them. When parents understand that they are being good
parents by talking loving care of themselves and their relationship, their
children will understand this.
One way of helping children understand this is to introduce the concept
of “time alone” very early in a child’s life. By the time a child is three, he
or she can easily understand the concept of time alone. If, each time you
spend time alone with your child, you say, “This is our time alone,” your
child will begin to understand the concept. When you have time to
yourself, you can say, “This is my time alone with myself.”
Recently a friend asked me how I approached dating my wife many years ago, as I looked at him he added, you know how did you deal with the kids and the ex always being around to see them? This got me thinking, how many men seem to see the single mum and her children before they see the real woman inside. They see the kids and the kid’s father as their main problem. Yes dating for parents is always going to involve the kids, in many cases on both sides, but it really isn’t the main issue at all. Nor should it be the reason that you turn down a relationship with a beautiful woman just because she has kids.
You’ve got to understand that every single mother is a woman first and mum second. When you meet a woman that you think you may get on with, whether it’s on a dating website, or out with friends, and then find out she has kids think about how you get on with this person first and then think about the kids. Yes the kids will be an issue that has to be
I would imagine that many of you out there are parents. Maybe parents of young children, maybe your kids have already grown. Possibly, somewhere in between. For any and all of you, I want to pose you one simple question:
What are your children’s thoughts on money?
It is a broad question, but I wrote it that way to make it applicable to as many situations as possible. To go into it a little deeper, I’ll ask these questions:
Have you EVER talked to your kids about money?
Do you feel qualified to do so? (Meaning, are your finances generally in line?)
Have you talked to your kids about the two sides of money?
And I could go on and on.
My first point is this-you need to talk to your children about money. Yes they have teachers at school and coaches at school and friends and they have you for a variety of other things, but I think you are doing your children a disservice by not talking to them about money.
Kids with ADHD can succeed at school and grow up to be well-balanced individuals. The right treatment plan has a lot to do with how well an ADHD child turns out, but good parenting is also necessary for the successful treatment of ADHD. Here are some tried and tested ADHD parenting tips that work on even the most hyperactive and inattentive of kids.
Set down specific rules and remain consistent
Let your child know what specific behaviors are expected. It’s important for you to be as specific as possible to avoid confusing your child and to ensure that this desired behavior is repeated in the future. For instance, instead of saying “clean up after yourself,” tell your child to pick up his or her toys after playing or to make the bed every morning. Be consistent about these rules to avoid confusion.
Children learn by following routines, but this is especially true for kids with ADHD. Be strict about mealtimes, bedtimes, and the time they should be awake and ready for school. Place a limit on how long your kids can play video games, watch TV, or surf the Internet, especially on
Do you remember searching for four leaf clovers in the grass when you were a kid? Making dandelion necklace? Building forts with old cardboard boxes? What will your kids remember? Sitting in the back of a minivan? Ordering dinner at drive -through? Being shuttled from activity? More importantly, how will it affect their mental and physical health?
Emergency doctors are noticing more and more children coming into emergency rooms with racing hearts, sweating, feeling like they’re going to die, etc… all adult symptoms of anxiety and stress.
Common children stressors include: problems at home or school, parental conflicts, family money problems, health problems, changes to routine, distressing world events, and social problems, such as teasing and bullying.
Children often say “the morning rush hour stresses me”: I have to eat quickly, I have to get dressed fast, brush my teeth quickly, then pack my stuff!….
Academic stress or competitive sports can be healthy for children but it depends on how children manage the stressors and their sense of control. “If the stress is something over which they have no control, and that could be
How can we parent our kids and teens better? I think the answer lies in allowing our kids to have more choices, not fewer. We want to empower our kids and teens to make better choices for themselves, and this does not happen by wrapping them up in a cocoon. Here’s an example of something that hopefully will cause you to rethink some of your parenting strategies:
My mother and her sister were both given cigarettes at age six and eleven. Mum will not smoke now but her sister became a chain smoker from that experience. I think their father made a huge mistake, nevertheless he was trying to put them off smoking and knew no other way. Imagine if he had done what I have done with my teenagers:
I have always said to my kids, if you ever want to try out smoking, just let me know and we will sit down together so you can try one. Now, hear me out. This is my logic. The child who wants to try a cigarette will try one regardless of whether you agree or not. If you say no
Parenting in today’s culture is one of the most difficult challenges families face. Because there are so many views concerning raising children and discipline, parents often find themselves at a crossroads when deciding how to handle these issues. The question we find ourselves asking is, “What is the best way to parent my children?”
As I have researched, studied, and read materials and books concerning parenting, I always return to the one place I know that offers sound wisdom and proven principles concerning parenting – God’s Word. God’s Word is very clear on issues concerning parenting, so I would like to focus on one such passage to help us better understand how to “Parent Kids God’s Way.”
Deuteronomy 6:4-9 is a very important passage in Jewish culture and tradition. This passage is often referred to as the “Shema” and is one of the centerpieces of Jewish faith and prayer. It also gives strong instruction concerning parenting and family life. When I look at this passage, I see four key principles for parents and their relationship with their children:
1) LOVE YOUR CHILDREN THE WAY WE SHOULD LOVE
It can be very difficult, parenting kids with autism. There are so many issues that come up that wouldn’t normally come up if you had a typically developing kid. One of the troublesome ones can be toilet training. It can take some kids with autism years longer than their peers to learn how to use the toilet.
Fortunately, there are strategies that can help autistic kids.
It is common for parents of autistic kids to become frustrated when trying to get their loved ones to use the toilet. He just sits there and won’t do anything. Diapers can get bulky and annoying to change, and of course your child needs to be toilet trained, in most cases, in order to be able to go to school.
Toilet training is one of the more difficult issues in parenting kids with autism, but luckily, there are a lot of parents who have gone before you. Here are some tips.
- Take one step at a time. First and foremost, when you are teaching your child to use the toilet, you should break everything into small steps. This works best if your autistic child already has an understanding
Your child is showing signs of musical talent. Who should make the decision about kids and music lessons, the parent or the child? Most people will say the adult. The child does not know enough to know what is good for them yet.
Actually, there are three different scenarios involving parents, kids and music:
Your child shows interest. His interest and ability is obvious to everyone, both friends and family. This is a perfect scenario with a natural and mutual outcome; the child is simply born to play musical instrument.
Your child informs you they want to sing or play an instrument. Sometimes a parent will pick up on the request the first time and other times the child will ask repeatedly. Children are persistent and if your child is always visiting with the same musical kids then they will embrace these lessons and attend with pleasure.
The parents see their child’s interest. Everyone has a different level of natural musical ability and children are no exception. Kids and music go together naturally. It is easy to prove this if you just turn on
The different parents-kids relations between China and America are the result of multi-reasons. One of these reasons is that these countries are of different history. As we know, compare with China, America is a young country, which has been established only over 200 years. “History does not exist for us until and unless we dig it up.” Even the earliest settlers have no more than 6 generations in the continent of America. In that we can see, the notion of “family tree” is quite shallow.
The “first name” or “blood” did not serve as a family symbol but representatives of individual. When a baby was born, he or she is seemed simply as a brand new life but not a extend branch of a family tree. So, American parents seldom regard children as a part of themselves but a totally independent human, and individual who must be enabled to survive in the world. This kind of view guided the parents to practice the children’s abilities, to make them self-affordable as early as possible. That is their “responsibility”.
While in China, which is a country that have a history of over
It really hurts parenting kids whose behavior everyone complains about in the neighborhood. You really don’t want your neighbors to be yelling at you because your children did something crazy. Not all fathers and mothers out there are able to bring up their children in a manner that is acceptable by society.
Some parents neglect their duties as parents. Instead of them guiding their children to grow up knowing the right ways, they impart them ways that are not righteous through the acts of their deeds. They teach them hatred instead of love. Children learn from their observations, what parents do is what their children will learn from them.
If you don’t guide your children well by imparting them good behaviors, then they’ll definitely be a disaster wherever they go. And, this will imply how poor you’re when it comes to parenting. You’ll have actually failed your children. But, what if your children are said to be well-behaved by people? Definitely you’ll be proud.
Some of the kids practice bad habits and this makes their parents to worry. Here are some things parents should be aware of: